Sharing is caring!

Having difficulties for sharing is part of every kid’s developmental process. In fact, the word “mine” is one of the firsts words to come out of a toddler’s mouth. During your kid’s second and third year, he will experience going from oneness to separateness, so you’ll start noticing comments like “This is mine!”, “I can do it myself”, etc. This is due to his growing awareness. So, don’t worry, there are a lot of ways you can help your child understand the concept of sharing. Keep reading to learn more!

 

Sharing is caring?

Sharing is a fundamental skill; it is how we keep our friendships, play and work well with others. This action teaches about compromise, fairness and, most importantly, gratitude. “Thank you for sharing your truck with me. Do you want to play with my teddy bear?”. Sharing teaches children that gratitude reciprocates. If we give to others, we will receive in return. Gratitude is the best policy. Sharing also teaches us about negotiation and coping with disappointment, two vital skills in life.

A little background

After your baby is born, he starts experiencing the foundation of compassion. Hearing another baby cry or feel the stress of the people that surround him causes your little one to become distressed. Even though he can’t say it, he feels what the other baby is feeling.  So, your baby perceives and experiments compassion and precursors of empathy since he is very little. Until, at 18 months old, he becomes aware that other people have feelings different from his own. Sharing implies empathy and, even though your child won’t experience true empathy until he is 6 years old, he will start developing and showing signs of it very early in life.

Forming attachments

Your toddler will become attached to things as well as people. You might notice that your child has trouble sharing his favorite teddy bear or even his least favorite toy. Studies reveal that children who received secured attachment parenting during the first two years are more likely to share in the years to come. Why is this? When you have a strong secure relationship with your child, he knows he can count on you for emotional and physical support. This makes him more likely to sympathize and offer help to others too. This also helps him become less attached to material things.

Monkey see, monkey do!

Since he is little, your child perceives what his parents and family members are doing. Children who are raised in the receiving end of a generosity model are more likely to follow that same dynamic with others.  If your little one sees you sharing and being affectionate with other person, he’ll imitate this behavior with the people around him.

More of the positive, less of the negative

Toddlers do a lot of “mockup sharing”-showing an object to people and letting them use it without actually letting go. This is a big step towards sharing. Praise your son by saying things like “That’s so nice of you, thank you for showing your car to aunt Lily”. It’s better to use positive reinforcements and be generous, than punish and take things away. If your child doesn’t feel like sharing, don’t punish him for it; he is just acting his age and learning the process. Better, praise his efforts and, little by little, he’ll soak in the positive reinforcements and feel good repeating the actions that make others so happy. Soon enough, sharing will come second nature for him.

What can you do to Introduce and practice the concept of sharing?

  • Be affectionate with your child and all family members: expressing affection is a form of showing you care for the other person.
  • Practice back and forth playing: “your turn, my turn”, “Here’s the red playdough, can I have some of the blue?”.
  • Share with him and your spouse in everyday situations: “I made popcorn, do you want some?”, “We made room for you, come sit with us”.
  • Give him some blocks or toys and ask him to share them with the people in the room and hand them out. “Give one to daddy and one to mommy.” Do the same exercise yourself.
  • Role play with puppets: this is great way for your child to explore other peoples’ feelings.
  • Encourage communication and acknowledge feelings: ask your spouse in front of your kid “How are you feeling today?”, then ask your kid. You can also point out feelings in others “Look at that girl in that swing, she looks really happy!”.
  • Play games that don’t have a lot of rules and that don’t have a single winner.
  • Share everyday stuff: “Let’s eat this banana, you can have half of it and I can have the other half”.

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The importance of the first 1,000 days of nutrition

A baby’s first 1,000 days of life are crucial for his or her proper development. These are the best years to make sure your baby builds optimum foundations to ensure a healthy brain development, growth, and a strong immune system. Unfortunately, 50% of babies in America are malnourished and the top vegetable eaten by U.S. toddlers is the french fry.

“Understanding the complex interplay of micro- and macronutrients and neurodevelopment is key to moving beyond simply recommending a good diet to optimizing nutrient delivery for the developing child.”  – AAP Committee on Nutrition.

The science is clear about what a young baby’s brain needs to make healthy neural connections. Two of the most important factors are:

  • Early stimulation: A child who is read to, talked to, sung to, played with, is not only happier today, but will have a better developmental capacity throughout his or her life.
  • Proper nutrition: In the first years of life, a child’s brain consumes between 50-75% of all energy absorbed from food and good nutrition. A child who does not receive the proper nutrition tailored to his or her needs at every stage could be at risk of hindering their brain development and physical growth. It can even put them at increased risk of developing illnesses like heart disease and diabetes.

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Why Fresh Baby Food Matters

The first 2 years of your baby’s life are the most critical time to ensure they are getting the right nutrition to support their rapid growth and development.

However, the current baby food options are falling short. The baby food industry is falling so far behind in innovation and quality of ingredients that we as parents are forced to choose between dedicating hours to prepare the meals or feed your baby food that is older than they are, and may contain GMOs and harmful chemicals.

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101 Guide to developing head control

Okay, so we’ve been through this topic before and we all know how important it is for our little ones to strengthen their neck muscles and achieve total head control. By now, you’ve probably heard that, as your baby girl develops and grows stronger, she will eventually master this skill, yay! But as a parent with tons of resources at your disposal (such as, Kinedu), you’re probably wondering what YOU can do at home to help your daughter reach this milestone and gain yet another skill in the ever-growing repertoire.

First off, a recap. The acquisition of this skill (head control, that is) is crucial since it will lay the foundation for many more physical skills such as rolling-over, sitting, crawling and walking. If you want to read more about what can be expected for this skill at each stage in your baby’s development you can do so in this article (http://blog.kinedu.com/motor-milestones-head-control/).

Now, unto the fun part. Tummy time is actually a secret tool you can use to help your daughter make tremendous leaps in head control. So, what exactly is tummy time? It’s all that time she spends on her stomach awake and most importantly: under your supervision. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), if a baby lays on her back for prolonged periods of time her head can flatten and, even though there’s no developmental problems related to this, if there’s anything you can do to prevent it, go for it!

Every minute your baby is face-down encourages her to lift the head and boost her motor skills! It’s completely normal if your little one is no fan of tummy time at first, hardly any baby is! Which is why it’s important to introduce it gradually and increase tummy time little by little.

Here are some tips you can do to make the most of tummy time!

  • Place your baby on her tummy on your stomach and speak to her. Curiosity and affection towards you will play their part and encourage your baby to look up towards you.
  • If your baby is really not a fan of tummy time, the AAP recommends this position: Place your daughter on a blanket, lay her on her side with a rolled-up towel or cushion behind her back, and a cushion or rolled-up blanket under her head for support. Bring both arms and legs forward in front of your baby. Try to keep her entertained with rattles, songs or toys for a bit before alternating and repeating on the other side.
  • Place some of your baby’s favorite toys nearby and move them around encouraging her to move her head and follow the toy’s path.

Stay tuned in our blog for more articles to help master head control! If you want even more tips and information regarding tummy time and head control, be sure to visit these pages:

http://blog.kinedu.com/motor-milestones-head-control/

http://blog.kinedu.com/motor-milestones-why-tummy-time-is-so-important/

https://www.thebump.com/a/tummy-time-when-to-start-how-to-do

https://www.babycenter.com/0_tummy-time-how-to-help-your-baby-get-comfortable-on-his-bell_1439985.bc

https://www.parents.com/baby/development/physical/tummy-time-guide/

 

How your baby discovers his hands

When babies are born, they are not capable of associating what they see with what they touch. You’ll notice that your baby seems to be looking in one direction, but moves his hands towards another. This is because babies younger than two months old don’t understand that their hands are a part of them. But don’t worry, there are many ways to stimulate your baby’s hand coordination. Keep reading to learn more!

How do babies discover their hands?

Hand coordination in infants is vital for the development of physical and cognitive skills. Since birth, babies start to learn about their bodies through sucking and grasping.

In babies, the discovery of one’s hands is something that can be stimulated through the senses and it works like a domino effect. Practice this with your baby by showing him and making noise with a rattle. First, its sound will get his attention and then he will focus on the object. As he sees the rattle, he will follow its movement and try to reach it with his hands. Once your baby gets the toy, he will begin to notice his own hands.

What happens when your baby discovers his hands?

When your baby is about ten weeks old he will begin to discover the use of his hands. You’ll notice how he will start focusing on a toy and smile at it. He will then begin to move his hands towards the object in order to reach it. Here is when your little one will understand that he has control over what he can touch and grasp.

Also, the development of your baby’s vision is very important for his hand coordination. The more visually stimulated your son is, the better he will use his hands. That’s why, at three months old, you’ll notice that your little one begins to focus and follow familiar objects with his eyes, recognizes people and uses his hands in a more coordinated way.

As your baby becomes aware of his environment, he will begin exploring his surroundings. A common behavior and mechanism of self-discovery are the first encounters with the mouth. That’s why anything that is within your baby’s reach will most likely end up in his mouth; it’s his way of exploring the world.

What can you do to stimulate your baby’s vision development and hand coordination?

– Use a nightlight when you put your baby to sleep

– Change the position of the crib

– Alternate sides when breastfeeding

– Hang a mobile above the crib or changing table

– Expose your baby to toys of different colors

– Show him toys that produce different sounds (rattles, plastic keys etc.)

– Help your baby explore different textures

– Play Peek-a-boo

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