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Why should we praise children’s actions instead of their innate qualities?

Parents praise their children for many different things, especially during their first few years of life when they are constantly learning and accomplishing new tasks. Be it that their children finally learned to walk, or simply look extremely beautiful, parents tend to constantly praise their children for almost everything. It seems as if they were hired to play cheerleaders for their children the whole day.

And don’t get me wrong, this is great! Babies need this kind of social support to keep up, learn, and grow. But, the thing is that not all types of praises benefit children in the same way. It all depends on the chosen words and whether these words are focusing on the toddler’s efforts, or on his/her physical and individual characteristics. For instance, the phrase “good job” focuses on the toddler’s actions, and “good girl” focuses on the toddler as an individual. Even though both of these phrases may sound quite similar, they have very different effects on toddlers. A study found that toddlers are better prepared for future life challenges when they are praised for their actions and efforts, rather than for their innate qualities.

Researchers studied a group of over 50 toddlers while interacting with their parents. They videotaped these babies and watched them five years later. They found that toddlers who were praised for their efforts during their first three years of life were more prepared to overcome life’s challenges. The reason is that these children believed they had the ability to learn, become smarter, and grow. Their parents had helped them believe in themselves and in their ability to make things happen by putting some work and effort. Moreover, researchers found that more boys were praised for their actions and efforts than were girls. So, even though girls were praised with phrases like: “you are so smart,” they were less likely to believe that they could develop those same traits, and therefore were less likely to challenge themselves. Continue reading

Anxiety during pregnancy

Anxiety is very common amongst expectant moms, due to doubts about pregnancy, concerns about the future baby, and fears about delivery. Also, physical and hormonal changes could give pregnant women mood swings and increase their stress levels.

What are some symptoms of anxiety?

• Trouble breathing
• Stomach pain
• Headache
• Hypertension
• Sweating and increased heart rate

Why should anxiety be reduced during pregnancy?

Stress can be harmful when it’s suffered during long periods of time, due to the high levels of cortisol produced in the body. If cortisol is maintained elevated for too long, it could raise your blood pressure, and disrupt both your memory and immune system.

There’s still no concrete information on how prolonged stress affects future babies, however, studies have found that some developmental issues are related such as preterm delivery, spontaneous abortions, attention disorders, and language delay have been associated with stress during pregnancy.

How can I decrease anxiety?

There are some exercises that you could do to control anxiety attacks during pregnancy. For example, breathing exercises and prenatal yoga. Doing these exercises will bring lots of benefits for your health and well-being while improving your blood flow and eliminating toxins.

Food for a restful sleep

Nowadays there are many distractions nowadays and bad habits that could really take a toll on the quality of your sleep. Having good eating habits is crucial for pregnancy since lacking a good diet could affect you and your baby.It’s no secret that getting a good night’s sleep is key to your health and effective brain performance, especially during pregnancy. It’s very important that you maintain good habits for the sake of your baby’s health and yours. Habits don’t just include adequate nutrition, a wide array of behaviors have an effect on your performance and your health. Therefore, having bad eating habits will take a toll on the quality of your sleep, and not getting enough sleep will directly take a toll on your mood. Constant stress due to poor sleeping habits can have an effect your baby, that’s why it’s so important that you try to sleep enough and eat well during pregnancy.

A good eating habit includes eating dinner early, at least 3 hours before bedtime. Another includes decreased consumption of carbonated drinks or highly caloric foods so you won’t have a hard time sleeping. Avoid caffeinated food and drinks for at least 8 hours before going to bed. Remember that you should not exceed more than 200mg of caffeine a day, so it’ll be helpful to keep a record of what you are eating each day.

On the other hand, some studies have found that there’s food with relaxing properties that could stimulate serotonin and melatonin release to your nervous system, and help you sleep better.

Some of these foods are:

Remember that having good habits will not only be beneficial during your pregnancy, they are key to a healthier and better lifestyle

Why should you hold on to some parenting practices?

Change is in our nature! We live in a world that is constantly changing, where we have learned to adapt to new situations and environments. As we discover and experience new things, our parenting practices and cultural beliefs change with us.

Experience has taught us that some old-fashioned social or parenting practices are not good for us, so we strive to change them entirely. But, what about questions we haven’t been able to answer yet? Or wrong knowledge that we thought it was right? New research found that some past parenting practices and cultural beliefs were actually pretty good, and should not be abandoned, since they are necessary for a healthy brain development.

Human babies are born with needs, as their brains haven’t fully developed yet. Narvaez says that ancestral early parenting involved breast-feeding, responsivity, touch, play, and natural childbirth. Studies have found that all of these nurturing practices have a positive impact on a child’s developing brain. For instance, breastfeeding provides nutrients and helps create bonding between mother and baby. Play is an essential form of learning and expressing in children that helps babies develop both social skills and self-control. And touch as a form of language affects empathy and self-control. The problem is that we have abandoned some of these parenting practices, since our cultural or contemporary beliefs have changed, and so, our behavior towards children has changed, too.

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