Anticipate your baby’s sleep
The objective of this technique is to stay one step ahead of your baby regarding his or her demands for sleep. Through the identification of diverse manifestations, you can address and change your baby’s habits, to avoid reaching the demand for sleep through crying and emotional instability.
Here’s how it works:
1. Observe your baby’s behavior before wanting sleep. Identify signs of tiredness, these range from rubbing his or her eyes, yawning, getting a little restless, among others. Every baby is different, so it is important to avoid generalizations. To properly detect and record these signs it is advisable to take notes of the time, manifestation, and duration. A week of observing and recording behavior should be sufficient!
2. Be conscientious about what YOU do to get him or her to sleep. This is important so that you can know which approach worked best in the past. This can vary from pats on the back, singing a lullaby, and rocking your baby to sleep. You can also take note of how long each approach takes to get your baby to settle and sleep.
3. Once you have detected your baby’s signs of fatigue and the most effective strategies in step two, tend to your baby’s needs when you notice that he or she is getting tired. It is important to try to do this right away, so that you prevent his or her accentuated demand of sleep. Start by speaking softly and slowly and then implementing the strategy that was more effective for him or her.
- You will be creating associations and conditioning to effectively guide your baby to sleep.
- It is ideal to avoid sleep-needing crises, which are more difficult to overcome and time-consuming to finally get to sleep.
- With this method you will be learning more about your baby and his or her behaviors and taking greater control of situations.
- It will start setting the foundation for having a steady sleep schedule!
- The first week can be a bit tedious and difficult, given that you need to let your baby demand sleep to observe his previous behaviors.
- It takes time and patience.
- You need to divide your attention between action and awareness of the measures taken. For a week it is necessary to fulfill multiple tasks, observation + action.
For any baby, being in the presence of his or her mother is a crucial component for him or her to feel safe. When he or she is near you, your baby feels comfortable, allowing him or her to get to sleep quickly and stay asleep longer. However, once you decide to leave your little one in his or her crib, it is useful to leave something associated with you behind, as an extension of you.
Here’s how it works:
1. During one to two weeks get your baby to go to sleep while using a particular object. Something warm and soft to the touch, like a blanket or soft plush objects are great for this! Place this object close to you and your baby, so that both of you are touching it.
2. Once your baby falls asleep, be sure to place the object in his or her crib, so that he or she continues to have contact with it until he or she wakes up.
3. If your baby wakes up during the night, first try softly stroking him or her with the soft object, and comforting him or her with a soft voice.
Gradually your baby will learn to associate the object with comfort and care. This will help you maintain his or her sense of security even when sleeping alone in his or her crib.
- Studies have shown that the security and care of a mother can be transferred when associated with a comforting object.
- With this technique you will gradually be working on encouraging your baby’s independence and personal resources.
- Using the object that has been associated with sleep, you can adjust your baby’s bedtime. Your baby will continue associating the presence of the object with sleep.
- For it to be more effective the object must acquire your scent, this can take one to two weeks. It is important to the keep the object clean and hygienic.
- You may need to restart the association of the object once it has been washed.
Establishing any habit takes time, effort, perseverance, and patience. This process can be hard at first, since it involves time and dedication, however you will find that its results will be pleasant for everyone in your family!
Want to read more? Take a look at these books:
Granic, I., & Lewis, M. (2010). Bedtiming: The Parent’s Guide to Getting Your Child
to Sleep at Just the Right Age. New York, USA.: Workman Publishing.
Pantley, E. (2002). The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby
Sleep Through the Night: Foreword by William Sears, M.D. McGraw Hill Professional.
Sears, W., Sears, R., Sears, J., & Sears, M. (2008). The Baby Sleep Book: The
Complete Guide to a Good Night’s Rest for the Whole Family. New York, USA.: Little Brown.