Does your baby get really fussy and irritated at the same time everyday, say, late afternoon or early evening? Don’t worry! This is a very common thing commonly known as the “witching hour” and happens between 5 to 11 pm. And while it can be a challenging time for parents, understanding the reasons behind it can help you navigate this period more smoothly.
Why does this happen?
1. Overtiredness: Babies can become overtired if they haven’t had enough naps or have had a very active day. This can lead to fussiness and irritability as their bodies crave rest. This is common in babies of all ages but especially in newborns and infants under 1 year.
2. Overstimulation: With a lot of new sights, sounds, and interactions, babies’ nervous systems can easily become overwhelmed. Overstimulation can make it hard for them to settle, leading to irritability. This is especially common from 0-6 months, as babies are still adjusting to the world around them.
3. Growth Spurts: During growth spurts, babies experience physical development that requires a lot of energy, often leaving them more tired and cranky. Growth spurts usually happen around 2-3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months and 9 months.
4. Teething: Teething can be quite uncomfortable and usually begins around 4-7 months. It can cause sensitivity, drooling, and even sleep disruptions, all of which contribute to fussiness and irritability to your baby.
5. Colic: Colic can cause intense crying and fussiness in babies, typically appearing in the first few weeks and generally resolving by 3-4 months of age.
How can I cope with the witching hour?
The witching hour can be challenging, but there are several strategies you can try to help both you and your baby through this period. Remember, every baby is different, so don’t hesitate to experiment with these tips to find what works best for your little one!
- Create a consistent, calming bedtime routine: Establish a gentle, predictable routine that helps your baby wind down. A warm bath, soft lullabies, a gentle massage, and cuddling can signal that it’s time for sleep. Consistency is key to making this ritual effective over time.
- Movement and rocking: Gentle rocking, swaying, or bouncing can help calm your baby. Consider holding your baby and doing light swaying movements. Even a walk around the room with gentle bouncing can be calming and provide that comforting motion babies often love.
- Change the scenery: Step outside if possible, even for a quick walk in the yard or around the block. Fresh air and a change of scenery can be as refreshing for you as it is for your baby.
- Dim the lights and add white noise: Lowering the lights and reducing stimulation can signal to your baby that it’s time to wind down. Try a white noise machine or a fan on a low setting to create a soothing environment; the consistent hum can help calm your baby.
- Give a gentle massage: Slow, gentle strokes on your baby’s forehead, back, or belly can be incredibly calming. Baby massages not only soothe but also encourage bonding and relaxation. A few drops of baby-safe oil can make the massage even more comfortable.
- Incorporate breath-Work for yourself: Managing a fussy baby can be stressful, so remember to take care of yourself too. Try deep breathing exercises to help center yourself. A simple technique is the 4-7-8 method: breathe in for 4 counts, hold for 7, and exhale for 8. This can help calm your nervous system, making it easier to be present and calm with your baby.
- Visualization exercise for yourself: Take a moment to close your eyes and visualize a calm, safe place, like a beach, a forest, or a mountain. Imagine the sounds, scents, and temperature of that place. This can help reduce stress and create a sense of inner calm, which can also be comforting for the baby when you are more relaxed.
- Take a break and reach out for support: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to pass your baby to a partner, family member, or friend for a few minutes. Even a short break can be refreshing, and a calm, recharged parent can often soothe a fussy baby more effectively.
When does the witching hour end?
The good news is that this is temporary! The witching hour usually gets better as babies get older. It tends to ease up around 3-4 months, but every baby is different. It’s a normal phase and it will pass. Stay calm and remember that what works for one baby might not work for another.
