We have referred to the importance of curiosity before and have given recommendations to keep it alive. Today we will talk about a specific curiosity killer that’s very critical: absence or lack of engagement.
Discovery and mastery, when shared, become a remarkable experience. We are social creatures, and the most positive reinforcement your little one can get when exploring is attention. When your son discovers something, he’ll be very excited to share it with you. The admiration and interest he will receive from others will make him feel glad to have experimented.
When he is out exploring, tons of questions will pop into his mind and he’ll need someone by his side he can share them with. Answering his questions will encourage his curiosity and will help him keep these facts in hand so he can share them with his friends or his teacher later on. This can also help him develop memory skills, something he’ll be needing for everyday tasks. When he can finally make use of his discoveries, he will also put his problem-solving skills to the test. All of these directly influence your child’s ability to engage in science, mathematical thinking, and logic.
Knowing he has someone who cares, supports, and supervises his play and explorations will make your little one feel safe. Safe enough to take small risks and become interested in unpredictable events. Something so valuable, that it will influence his entire lifelong learning.
When a child feels safe and has meaningful relationships with his caregivers, he makes better use of his curiosity, feels at ease, and experiences less stress. According to research conducted by Kaiser Insurance Company, a child that feels safe has a stronger foundation for his growth. Besides, strong relationships can also positively impact self-regulation, social skills, and self-care.
How to make him feel safe?
Being emotionally available for your little one is basic when making him feel safe. Here are some tips:
- Be sensitive: Be aware of your little one’s needs and attend to them in a loving way. Also, listen to him and give your best to understand the root of his feelings and actions. Hugging him when he feels scared or sad, can also be a great way to be present.
- Create structure: Certainty in his routines can contribute to his well-being. Knowing that you will be present at dinner time, or any other moment that fits your schedule, makes him feel confident and reassured.
- Be reliable: Keep your promises. If you say you will pick him after dinner do your best to be on time.
- Keep calm: Not displaying frustration or anger when you engage with your little one can go a long way when forming a loving relationship with him.
Your presence contributes to the loving relationship between the two of you. You give him a sense of safety, comfort, confidence, and encouragement, that will truly support his curiosity and his overall development. Keep making the best of these wonderful years!
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