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Independent Play: Benefits and How to promote it

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Key Points:

  1. Independent play helps toddlers develop creativity and critical-thinking skills, giving parents a break.
  2. Encourage independent play gradually by starting nearby and then moving away as they become engaged.
  3. If they resist, set boundaries by explaining the need for some alone time and use a timer.
  4. Let children explore toys on their own to foster creativity and problem-solving.

Teaching toddlers to play independently helps them build creativity and critical-thinking skills, and helps parents catch a break too! Independent play is important because it teaches children how to entertain themselves and helps them become more self-sufficient. This type of play usually occurs during the toddler stage.

How can I promote independent play?

It’s not always easy getting kids to play alone, they do love our company! But give it a try one step at a time. At first, try to just sit beside your little one silently, while they play. Let them explore the materials and toys freely. Once they are absorbed in the activity, try moving to another part of the room. Your toddler will still feel comfortable with you nearby. When they are happily playing on their own, try not to hover, but make sure their play area is safe and comfortable. 

If you try to leave but your little one gets upset by your attempts, you can set some boundaries. Explain to them you need some minutes alone, put a timer that they can watch, and after the time finishes, come back and pay attention to them. Eventually, you can add more time until they are comfortable playing on their own. 


Playing alone has its perks!

When we tell children exactly how to play with a toy or what to do with it, we limit their exploration and imagination. A study from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology found that children were more likely to figure out a toy’s extra characteristics (like a noise it makes) when left alone with it, than if an adult first showed them how to use it.

“Children flourish when they have opportunities to make choices about what they do, particularly in play situations.” –Jean Ispa, PhD

You have to be aware of how often you interfere and instruct your child when they are playing. A study from the University of Missouri found that children become less engaged when their mothers tell them how to play and what to play. Children were even found to have negative feelings towards their directive mothers, especially when their directiveness was negative or critical, with a lack of affection.

It’s important to show affection towards your children while supporting their play and, at the same time, be careful not to dictate exactly how they should do it. That way, you’ll foster their development. Let your little one engage in independent play for a while; you’ll see their creativity flourish before you!

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4 Responses

  1. My little daughter is 22 months old.she doesn’t play alone and she is not playing with toys . She always wants me . In this stage she is very cranky. She likes to watch the tv.but its not good for long time so I don’t understand what should I do please suggest me some nice ideas thank you

    1. Hi Ankita!

      Thanks for reaching out. If you’re looking for age-appropriate ideas for playtime with your daughter, I suggest you download our app. Go to and give it a try! You’ll find tons of great ideas for quality time with your little one.

      To encourage your little one to play by herself, at first, try to just sit beside her silently, while she plays. Once she is absorbed in the activity, try moving to another part of the room for a while. Your toddler will still feel comfortable with you nearby.

      A toddler’s social and emotional development is constantly evolving, you’ll notice lots of changes. Take a look at this article from the American Academy of Pediatrics. It’s very interesting and could give you insights on her emotional development.

      Hope this helps! 🙂

  2. My little one is 8 m/o, i was just wondering what kind of toys would be best to get him exploring. I would like to have a few stimulating toys/objects that i can rotate so he does not get bored. Any recommendations would be much appreciated .

    1. Hi Tara,

      Thanks for reaching out! At 8 months, babies are all about exploring their surroundings and refining their fine motor skills. Great toys at this age are large blocks to stack together, pull and push toys, and things to play pretend with like dolls, puppets, and toy cars.

      Take a look at our article on age appropriate toys for more insights!

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