Communication is the building block of society and of every relationship. We’ve previously talked about how to practice positive communication with your child. In this article, we will talk about the impact this has over your little one’s development. Ever since she was born, your child has been watching your cues and imitating your behavior to be more like you. Being intentional and present when you communicate is fundamental to building her confidence, resilience, and grit.
Positive communication comes from feeling heard and understood. At this stage, your little one’s brain is absorbing everything around her, making stronger connections every day. When you attune and resonate with the feelings behind your child´s requests, you are able to hear what she wants and understand why she wants that. This not only helps you understand your child better, but it also validates her feelings, making her feel that she can communicate with those around her.
Research shows how communication has an impact on every aspect of our lives. Findings of a study published by The International Journal of Business Communication suggest that the most desirable quality in a new hire is effective communication skills. Unfortunately, it is also the number one incompetency on the list. Other research found that communicative behaviors such as supporting, disclosing, negotiating, and communicating positively are crucial in creating a healthy and happy family. Using other alternatives to the word “no” allows you to create a peaceful environment in which your little one can learn, in a loving way, that she can´t always get what she wants. It also encourages your child to communicate her thoughts and feelings in the future, strengthening the bond between you.
How much does positive communication influence your child´s development?
- It allows her to view learning as a process. Positive words of encouragement and focusing on the effort, rather than praising the goal, fosters your child´s confidence and problem-solving skills.
- It models how to validate others’ feelings and opinions.
- It helps your child understand how to express her opinion without bringing down someone else´s, an essential skill she´ll need throughout her life when negotiating with others.
- Models how to be mindful when listening and communicating with the people around her.
- It helps your daughter tune in and understand body language and non-verbal messages.
- It emphasizes the importance of honesty and helps your little one name her feelings.
- It models how to solve conflicts and not focus on winning the argument. Offering an in-tune and positive solution to your child will help her understand that, even though people have different opinions, it’s important that people feel understood and heard.
- It fosters her reasoning skills and understanding of how to work well with others.
- It models mutual respect, trust, and connection; skills that will help your little one build healthy relationships in the future.
- It models how to be responsive and not reactive. It shows her how to be respectful, calm, and positive when exchanging points of view.
For more information on this subject check out:
- Siegel, D. J., & Bryson, T. P. (2018). The YES brain: How to cultivate courage, curiosity, and resilience in your child. New York: Bantam.
- Say yes to fewer “no’s”
- Communicating well with children: tips
- A Managerial Perspective: Oral Communication Competency Is Most Important for Business Students in the Workplace Jeanne D. Maes