|Your daughter is now stepping out of the terrible twos and into the awesome threes and fours. In this stage of your kid’s development, she is staring to make friends and build relationships, learning to interact with other people outside the family (like playmates, teachers, peers, day-care staff, etc.) and is also beginning to express feelings, needs, likes and dislikes with her newly discovered language skills. This communication is slowly, but surely, building your little girl’s personality and setting the base for future relationships, communication style and sense of self.
Because of this, communicating with your child is very important for her social and emotional development. As the American Academy of Pediatrics emphasizes, knowing how to receive the message your child is trying to convey to you is an essential part of the communication. This article will focus on listening actively to your preschooler.
All communication can be thought of as a channel that goes both ways: not only the receiver end of the message is getting something! In every communication, the person speaking also gets an implicit message about what he or she is saying. This message is conveyed by the listeners body language, attunement and feedback or lack thereof. When you use active listening, your child gets the message back that what she is saying is important, and that you are receptive to what she is expressing.
Active listening can help your daughter better understand her feelings, and it fosters a warm and nurturing relationship between the two of you, while also boosting your girl’s sense of worth and self-confidence. Here are some recommendations on how to become an active listener with your child: